Though I was not sure I
knew what I was going to do at the hospital, I decided to seek official
permission. The permission was not granted, so I was not able to see the
patients. I later realized that such permission was hardly granted at such
hospitals because of religious considerations. All I wanted to do was do
something that would make me feel that my life was of value.
Now, bear in mind that at
the time of this experience, I was waiting for admission into the university
and it was taking time to come. I was in a situation where I needed urgent assistance.
I was really broke at the time. Yet I considered it necessary to prove that in
spite of the situation around my life at the time, I was still of great
value.
At another time (months
after the experience above), still
overwhelmed same delay in getting admission into the higher institution,
I told someone in the local church I was attending then that I was tired. I complained
that I felt not useful because my major goal at the time was yet to be realized.
He encouraged me and helped me realize that I was so valuable.
I was the worship leader
of the church at the time; I wrote songs and led the worship team successfully.
So this elder person helped me see how much value I was adding to the congregation
and went ahead to inform me that most members of the church held me in high
esteem. Eventually I got the admission and realized that I was indeed adding
value to my world at the time. Besides what I was doing in church, I was a
sales person with an organization at the time. Yet all these did not for me
appear like adding value, just because my major goal at the time had delayed in
coming.
I have realized that it is
easier for us to conclude that we are disadvantaged and cannot amount to
anything, just because one major thing we are expecting is yet to come. My encouragement
in this article is that we should remain focused on what we are doing at
present and give it our best shot. That is the primary place we are adding
value. Do not neglect whatever you may be doing at present, it does not matter
either or not you are earning money from it.
It begins with the mind. The
more defeatists thought we allow, the more condemned we feel. If we can control
what we allow in our thought life, it will be easier to reject such demeaning
thoughts whenever they come to mind.
Next is about self esteem.
It is about our estimation of our self; self respect, do I believe that I’m
worth something? When we have positive self esteem, we move about with our
heads held high; on the contrary, when we have negative or low self esteem, we
deny our worth from within. Sometimes it is because we feel that what we do is
menial and of lower wage. Having a mindset that encourages dignity in labour
can help.
We also consider self image,
which has to do with our view about other people’s perception of us. We allow
the mind to erroneously interpret other people’s view of us, in such a way we
would consider demeaning. When we believe such, it also presents a poor self image
of us to us, making us feel we are worth less that we actually worth.
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