The
beauty of digital devices is in their capacity to drive efficiency and speed in
our official and personal lives. The previous article on this subject discussed
the gains of digital devices to your marriage. This edition looks at how the
use of digital devices can ruin your marriage.
Maintain Inordinate Relationships
Digital
devices can be used to maintain inordinate relationships. These are
relationships with the opposite sex which one spouse knows that the other would
frown at.
Couples
take calls from such relationships and exchange romantic messages with people
in such relationships. The basic solution is to end such relationship. Any call
you cannot take while your spouse is around or message you know your spouse
would frown at seeing may eventually ruin your marriage.
Watching Pornographic Videos
While
it can be fun for couples to watch movies or videos of relevant events on the
digital device; it is dangerous for a spouse to have the habit of watching pornographic
videos.
The
person could begin indulging oneself sexually or begin making demands from the
spouse based on the expectations raised by the acts on such videos. This can
affect the sex life of the couple negatively.
Sharing each other’s nude pictures
In
trying to exploit the use of digital devices, some couples take personal nude
pictures or pictures of their genitals and share with each other. This could be
to keep the sexual heat
when they are apart from each other for an extended
time.
The
danger is that such pictures could mistakenly get to an unintended person. When
such happens, it could affect trust and may even be a source of scandal by the
third party.
Recording video of your sexual activities
As
part of play with each other, some couples wish to record certain sexual
activities to watch later. This is also dangerous because it may slip off your
custody.
Those
who pick such video can use it to blackmail the couple for a fee or sell it
without the couple’s consent to online pornographic businesses. They may even
upload it to the internet just to embarrass the couple.
Sending digital messages While with each other
Some
couples have the habit of sending messages to each other via digital devices
while both of them are in the same room. This tends to reduce the time they
spend talking with each other face to face.
Everything
has its use; drop the devices and talk face to face, you need the bond that
face to face interaction creates in your relationship. No matter how used you
get to interacting through digital devices, it is important you ensure it does
not replace face to face interactions. You are married to each other; not
through digital devices.
Disagreements about Sharing on Social Media
Digital
devices make it easier for people to share messages, pictures, and videos on
the social media platforms. Some couples disagree with each other over what to
share. While some are not comfortable sharing the other’s pictures; the other
person wants whatever picture taken to be shared.
Couples
should have values that guide their relationship; such values should determine
the extent of sharing on the social media. Your privacy is essential for your
harmony. Even celebrities are mindful of what is shared about them by other
people on the social media; how much more what you share about each other.
Tendency to track each other’s movement
Access
to digital devices encourages frequent calls and messages to each other.
Couples must be careful to keep such calls within boundaries. If a spouse feels
a tendency to tracking by the other spouse, it could result in quarrels.
Stay
in touch with your spouse without tracking the person’s movement. Both of you
are adults and should share the highest level of trust with each other. Instead
of using digital devices to track someone’s movement; be open and express your
concerns to your spouse face to face.
I believe that this edition has been a blessing to someone. Your
comments are appreciated.
Talks
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