When people plan to get married, they
are often carried away by the other person's charisma, beauty, qualification,
talents, intelligence, and financial net-worth. Such that sometimes they tend
to forget that the person they would eventually live with is different from the
person they see on the platform.
If Nelson is a CEO of an organization
and wishes to get married to Josephine, who is a businesswoman; Josephine needs
to remember that eventually she would be married to Nelson, not the CEO. Also
Nelson needs realize he would live in the house with Josephine and not the
Businesswoman.
Everyone's character is the real person
they are, especially when no one else is watching. It therefore becomes
expedient that each spouse invests in their character to ensure that it is not
a source of disharmony in the home.
Personal
Evaluation: Regular evaluation of yourself alone helps you identify
areas of your character that require improvement.
Taking time to do this is an
investment you will not regret. The question to ask is: Have I been treating my
spouse the way I would like to be treated? If someone does so and so to me, how
would it make me feel? Be honest to yourself in this process.
Engage
an accountability Partner: This person may be your spouse or
your best friend. Someone you can feel comfortable to be vulnerable to. Two
ways to engage this person: ask for an evaluation of your relationship with the
person and seek to know what they think you need to improve on. Another way is
to tell them something you did that you are not happy about and seek their help
in encouraging you as you work to be better in that area.
Study
and meditate on the Word of God: When this is done,
the Holy Spirit helps us to see ourselves in the word and helps us to identify
what we need to do to keep improving. Meditation is about thinking through what
we read, so as this is done, understanding grows and grace is released.
Speak
the Word to yourself: Take specific aspects of the word of
God that address areas of character you need to improve on. Speak them to
yourself, where necessary put your name and direct the actionable part to
yourself in spoken words. Overtime you see yourself becoming what you speak.
Pray
for grace to act: Communicating to God for the release
of His grace to enable you manifest the right character, helps a lot. He made
you and He knows how to help you become who he made you to be.
Take
Action: Take advantage of every opportunity to act contrary to the
wrong character. As you improve and act on what you are learning, you are
encouraged to improve.
If you fail, don't give up. Keep taking
the right steps. Your marriage will be better for it.
Talks
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