The title of this article is an
interpretation of the Message Bible version of Proverbs chapter 5 verse 18. The verse
reads: 'Bless your fresh-flowing
fountain! Enjoy the wife you married as a young man! The context of the chapter is an encouragement to the man
to avoid sexual perversion. The chapter presents a man who goes into
sexual relations with a woman not his wife as a foolish person.
The chapter shows the
things a man should beware of concerning the strange woman. It then admonishes
the man to focus on his marriage and enjoy his own wife. This article
highlights how couple can enjoy each other and be free from sexual perversion.
Be focused on who you married:
Your spouse was chosen among other persons who either were close to you at some
time or were not, but were known to you as good people. Having known many
people and finally chose to settle with one, it is expected that you focus on
each other and keep away from others. Focusing on each other implies enjoying
each other as you are; improving on what need to be improved on about each
other and not comparing each other with other people.
Appreciate each other:
Always be grateful that you chose each other. Express this to each other
as often as you wish to do it. Don't wait till each other's special day to
celebrate the person on the social media platforms. Celebrate them at home. Let
your spouse know how much they mean to you and let other people know how much
your spouse means to you.
Be available to satisfy each other
sexually: Staying focused on each other requires that you are
emotionally and physically connected to each other. That level of connection
leads to being aroused easily by hearing each other's voice, thinking of each
other, casually touching each other. It results in desiring to be with each
other often and looking forward to be with each other whenever you are apart.
Therefore do not joke with each other's sexual desires; do not take for granted
the need to satisfy each other sexually. Realizing the need for sex in marriage
and knowing that you are always available to meet that need, keeps the desire
in check.
Respect each other:
The society expects that a wife should respect the husband. The interpretation
is that men have ego and require respect from their wife. Another
interpretation is that the Scriptures require the wife to submit to their
husband. While these assertions are correct, it is important to also realize
that respect is reciprocal.