VALUES AND SEXUALITY


Most times when we fill personal information on a form, one of the demographics to complete is Sex. We simply put F meaning Female or M meaning Male. So, what is really sex? The dictionary defines sexuality as the properties that distinguish organisms on the basis of their reproductive roles. Some other definitions see sex as the quality of being male or female. Another source defines sex as sexually motivated behavior.

 

Human sexuality can also refer to the way someone is sexually attracted to another person – which is determined by their sexual orientation – whether it is to the opposite sex (heterosexuality), to the same sex (homosexuality), having both these tendencies (bisexuality), to all gender identities (pansexuality or bisexuality), or not being attracted to anyone in a sexual manner (asexuality).

The need to discuss this stems from the fact that it is one aspect of human behavior where I believe adhering to standards or value is necessary. It impacts cultural, political, legal, and philosophical aspects of life. It can refer to issues of morality, ethics, theology, spirituality, or religion.

Recognizing that value is what is important to one, we can examine what determines how humans value sex and what determines how important it is to them.

Interest in sexual activity typically increases when an individual reaches puberty. Some researchers assume that sexual behavior is determined by genetics, and others assert that it is molded by the environment. This is the nature versus nurture debate, in which one can define nature as those behavioral traits that are due to innate characteristics, such as instincts and drives. The concept of nurture can be defined as the environmental factors or external stimuli that influence behavior, emotions, and thinking. Biological and physical differences include the human sexual response cycle among men and women. This explains the various distinctions of sexuality above.

Sexual awareness begins with recognition of changes in sexual organs of the body. One basic characteristic of the sexual organs is that they are hidden on the body. They are not as exposed as the eyes, the legs, the nose, the ears and the hands. I believe that these body parts that are exposed are so because they play roles that are exposed. As long as we keep applying them to their exposed roles on the body, we maximize their importance and value to human body. It is difficult or almost impossible to hide them and yet have them perform their roles. When they happen to be hidden, we lower their value and they are not able to perform their roles maximally.

Juxtapose this assertion with the location and use of sexual organs; you discover that because they are hidden, their appropriate use should not be in the open. From the basic use of urination to the extreme use of sexual intercourse, sexuality and sex organs should be personal and privately used.

It is appalling and shameful that today grown men and young people stay at strategic places and urinate as though it is the same as taking a bottle of coke. Recently while walking through a street, I saw a group of three young men and a lady, sitting and chatting from a distance, as I got closer I saw one of the guys stand up, open his trousers and begin to urinate into a drainage beside where they sat and facing the road through which I was walking. I wondered if he forgot that a lady was sitting there or he did not realize that both ladies and guys are walking towards him on that road.

We are lost today what dressing should be. I have always thought that dressing is meant to cover nakedness and so should be decent.  This is going by what we see people put on exposing the supposed hidden parts of the body.

Value for sexuality begins with preserving what differentiates you from other sex. It does not matter if they are celebrities or regular people, those who dress to expose those parts of the body that should be hidden, do not value the role those parts play on the body. By extension they devalue their worth before people of opposite sex.

Value for sexuality should motivate every sex to respect the sanctity of the other sexual body parts, without taking advantage of anyone.  

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