WHERE ARE YOUR CHILDREN?

In the late 90s/early 2000 there was a television Presenter on the Nigeria Television Authority (NTA) named Frank Olize, who presented a news magazine programme, Newsline on Sundays. He would always start this way: “My name is Frank Olize, you are welcome to your Sunday Sunday tonic; do you know where your children are?”

This question was a result of some stories featured on his programme concerning missing children and the need for parents to ensure they are aware of their children and wards’ whereabouts per time, especially when those children are still living with them.

This question has become much more important today because there are more reasons to ensure parents know the physical and psychological whereabouts of their children today than there was over a decade ago.

CHILD TRAFFICKING

This vice has been on the rise in recent times. Children of ages six to about thirteen or older, are sold for child labour purposes, prostitution and rituals. Sometimes it appears it is only street children that are vulnerable to this. However examples now abound where children who have homes have been kidnapped for trafficking. Some are said to have been lured by certain edibles while some are forcefully taken away.

SOCIAL MEDIA

This happens when children are stuck to any of the social media sites on their phones and tablets, without knowing what is going on in their environment. This could be by chatting with friends on those plat forms or simply reading other people’s posts. Parents should to some level monitor their children’s use of these communication/entertainment tools to avoid abuse by their children.

VIDEO GAME

Some Children give attention to video game much more than they do to their school books. Some also avoid playing with friends because of video games. It is one of the areas of escape for children who do not get their parents’ attention. Parents should learn to give attention to their children and even become their friend so that the children would not seek solace in such things they should only use for recreation per time.

TELEVISION

When some children get so use to particular programmes on some television channels, they tend to always want to watch such programmes, sometimes to the detriment of some household chores assigned to them. Recently a colleague of mine told me he had decided not to renew the cable television subscription in his home. When I enquired why, he said it was because his ten year old son only watched hip hop music channels and does not even allow the younger siblings to watch other channels they would want to watch. He said the situation was now affecting his attention to his academic work

PEER PRESSURE

When children have several friends, they tend to be under pressure to want to hang out with them even at odd times. This may not be detrimental if such friends are wisely chosen and are not so much. If they choose friends without restrain, the danger is that they may get some wrong friends whose association with them would not be helpful. The bottom line is, invest intellectually and morally in your children and make them know they have value in themselves to add to others. That way, they would be influencing their friends positively rather than they being influenced negatively.

Parents are largely responsible for what their children become in life. Such responsibility should not be abdicated to teachers in schools and in religious places of worship. You can know where your children are in these aspects and more if you hold yourself accountable for their upbringing and therefore take the effort to inculcate in them right values. If they grow having the right values, they would place all these demands where they belong. They would use them for the purposes they were made and not allow these things become unnecessary distractions.

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