This article looks at some reasons every marriage needs a healthy sex
life. It will identify a mix of physical, spiritual, mental and emotional
reasons to pursue a healthy sex life in your marriage.
Oftentimes, sex in marriage is seen to be for three major reasons:
· A way of expressing affection
· A way of maintaining
companionship
· A way of procreation.
These reasons are fundamental and are good reasons to define the place
of sex in marriage. However it behooves of every married couple to also identify
certain peculiar reasons to ensure that they do not just have sex but enjoy it
to the fullest in their marriage. Therefore beyond these basic reasons, your
marriage needs a healthy sex life because:
You have
always wanted sex
Physical development goes with
desire for sex. It is in-built in every person to desire sexual relationship. This
desire heightens as two people get together and agree to marry each other. Therefore
realising that marriage is a place to enjoy it without shame or guilt; couples ought
to pursue a healthy sex life and not shy away from enjoying what they have
always wanted to do.
Sex can help keep a man committed
It
has been discovered that Oxytocin, popularly known as ‘love hormone’ released
in men during sex helps them get more emotionally attached to their partner.
This is an important reason to ensure a healthy sex life, because when a man is
jealously committed to their spouse, he would ensure that the marriage is
nurtured to last. A man, who is not committed to his spouse, would seek
emotional commitment elsewhere to the detriment of his marriage.
Regular sex has health
benefits
Sex is known to be a form of
exercise. As regular exercise helps in protecting the heart, so is regular sex.
An understanding that there is a health benefit dimension to sex should
encourage married couples to pursue a healthy sex life where nothing hinders
their access to it, so that they enjoy the health benefits. However other forms
of exercise should also compliment what sex offers. Regular sex also helps
prevent prostate cancer in men. This is in line with results of a number of
research around the world. It has also been found that sex helps some people
get good sleep. Marriages benefit from these when they pursue having a healthy
sex life.
It saves
couples from sexual sin
There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex
is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The
two become one.” Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we
must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us
lonelier than ever—the kind of sex that can never “become one.” There is a
sense in which sexual sins are different from all others (1 Corinthians 6:
16-17 MSG).
This understanding makes it necessary
for couples in marriage to ensure they have a healthy sex life so that they
save each other from the temptation of joining oneself to an outsider. When
couples enjoy a healthy sex life in their marriage, they are spiritually tied
to each other. That attachment to each other makes it difficult for them to
seek sexual satisfaction from any other source. I have counselled a man who had
engaged a prostitute to provide specific sexual service for him because his
marriage had unhealthy sex life. They are since reconciled and pursuing a
healthy sex life.
Talks
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