Marriages go
through various forms of conflicts in the life time of the couple. One major
conflict that in some cases results in marriage dissolution is sexual conflict.
It is a situation where married partners disagree over sexual issues leading to
days of quarrels and arguments. This articles looks at some causes of sexual
conflicts in marriage.
FREQUENCY OF INTERCOURSE
Frequency becomes
the cause of sexual conflict when one partner constantly wants sex without
considering the other person’s readiness to participate. While some people are comfortable having sex seven days in a
week; others would rather do with two or at most three days.
A lady reported how
the husband demands for sex on a daily basis. She said she did not understand
why the husband was doing so because both of them work daily and would
necessarily be tired when they get home. However in order to keep the peace,
she chose to simply allow him do it daily without actively participating.
POOR INTERPRETATION OF TEMPERAMENT
This has to do with
personality types. Certain personality types respond to sexual emotions in a
certain way. When couples fail to pay attention to knowing each other’s
personality types and understanding how to apply them sexually, it results in
arguments.
SEX STYLES
When a spouse
insists on having his way on a particular sex style, which their partner finds
difficult to participate in, such can initiate quarrels. Also when one partner
refuses to accept certain changes in style; it could lead to quarrels. If
someone insists on missionary style only, the other spouse may feel bored and
complain.
POOR UNDERSTANDING OF LOVE LANGUAGE
Love languages are
the different ways individual spouses would like to receive love.
While some like physical touch, others like words of affirmation; some interpret being loved as spending quality time with them while others see it as being giving gifts; some people also interpret it as acts of service. When couples fail to speak each other’s love language by expressing love to them the way they would like it, it leads to argument.
While some like physical touch, others like words of affirmation; some interpret being loved as spending quality time with them while others see it as being giving gifts; some people also interpret it as acts of service. When couples fail to speak each other’s love language by expressing love to them the way they would like it, it leads to argument.
LACK OF FORE PLAY
Some people dread
sex because their partner does not have regard for fore play. In fact such
women are literarily being raped in marriage. There is no room for sensual
connection before the intercourse begins. So the women go through emotional and
physical pain but have to remain in the marriage.
NO TIME FOR SEX
Certain marriages
are experiencing a situation where there is little or no time for sex by one of
the spouses. Sometimes it is because of very low interest in sex or because
they pay more attention to business and career than to intimacy with their
spouse. The result of this is that the other party feels sex starved and the
person complains. Some decide to engage the use of sex toys to replace what
ordinarily they should get from their spouse.
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