Recently
at a couples’ dinner, someone asked about how she can manage a husband who
wants to have sex with her without having his bath after a day’s work. Also some
time ago, in a personal grooming class; the facilitator commented that she
detested having her husband use a pair of boxers twice. She said she would not
allow the husband near her (for sex) if that happened. I was not married then
and I knew that some people wore a pair of boxers twice before washing it, so I
wondered if what the woman said was true for every couple. I have also read a
story where a man complained of the wife’s dirty habit as part of the reasons
he wanted to end the marriage. So how do we maintain personal hygiene for the
benefit of healthy sex in our marriages?
Keep
the armpit clean
One part of the body that
gets well exposed to each other during sex is the armpit. Leaving bushy hair
around there may look dirty unless it is well taken care of. So decide what you
want to do with the armpit hair. If you must keep it, keep it clean and smell
nice, or else shave. Unless a bad smell arouses your partner, lol.
Manage
the pubic hair
Discussing
hair down there sounds awkward sometimes.
Though pubic hair in male and female come with puberty and remain fresh
most of the teenage and young adult period, becoming sexually active with a
married partner calls for a decision on how to manage it. While some men would
want their wives to shave, others may not. It is important that couples discuss
and agree on what works for them to keep the place neat. Some ladies want their
husband trimmed while some want everything off. It is advised that ladies
should not wax but trim low enough to still allow sensation. If a couple
chooses to shave, they can even shave each other; it could be romantic.
Hairdo
and Beards
Attraction
goes by what we see. Keeping a good hairdo for male and female, is necessary to
keep them attracted to each other. Men should determine with their wives what
works for them on beard. Some wives want it left but trimmed and maintained,
while others want it well shaved. Consistently leaving unkempt beard and
unkempt hair may be a turn off. However,
if leaving unkempt hair and beard is romantic for both of you, why not, lol.
Dirty
undies
Imagine
a man well aroused and making out with the wife, but while removing the wife’s
undies notices that it is dirty and smelling, hmm. Imagine a woman leaning on
the husband’s chest; gradually reaching out to play with the genital and
perceives the boxers smelling bad.
Both scenarios could turn off the body that
was already turned on. Whatever it takes, please keep your undies clean. If you
are mindful of wearing clean clothes for others to see; you should be much more
mindful of wearing clean undies which only your spouse sees.
Fingernails
I
must add that male and female should endeavor to keep their fingernails smooth
and low, where necessary. The hand is mostly used during sex. Even the men put
the fingers in the vagina. You don’t want your overgrown nails to hurt her down
there.
Mouth
and Teeth
Brushing
your teeth and washing the mouth regularly could sometimes be taken for
granted. Please remember to do so at least twice a day. Not sure anyone wants
to continue kissing someone whose mouth smells bad.
Have
a bath
This
is basic, yet it is an issue some spouses are contending with. Sweat smells bad
when it is stale; therefore spouses should consider smelling good to each other
during sex by having their bath as often as necessary. Apart from a way of
maintaining hygiene, having a bath has certain health benefits which everyone
needs to leverage. It helps in relaxing the nerves and keeping the person in
the right mood.
Use
body spray
If you are getting
ready to initiate sex immediately your spouse gets into the room; this may
enhance your move. When the body and atmosphere smell good, someone could get
easily turned on.
Talks
Post a Comment