Understanding your spouse is essential
for an enduring harmony in your marriage. The responsibility of understanding
each other lies on both spouses. It is something that begins from courtship and
continues throughout the marriage.
Understanding your spouse requires that
both are comfortable to be vulnerable. Openness to each other is necessary to
ensure proper understanding of each other. This article looks at ten things
every couple must understand about each other.
Understand
your spouse's personality. Some people are extroverts and so
out-going, out-spoken. Others are introverts and so reserved and quiet.
Understand
the person's temperament. Some persons are Choleric, some are
sanguine, others are phlegmatic and melancholy. Some people have a combination
of two. Learn the characteristics of these temperaments to know why they behave
the way they do.
Understand
your spouse's emotional cues, otherwise called Love languages.
This varies in individuals. These include: Gifts receiving, physical touch,
quality time, acts of service and words of affirmation. Many people have a
combination of two.
Understand
your spouse's interests. Someone's interest can be based on
their faith, profession or area of business. It can also be based on upbringing
and associations.
Understand
the person's view on family economy. This is about how
to manage family financial resources. The view can be based on upbringing,
profession, association and exposure to information.
Understand
your spouse's view on marital sex. Such view can be
based on upbringing, faith, association, exposure to information on sexual
relationships. It can also be based on previous experiences
Understand
their view on relationship with in-laws. This may be based on
level of knowledge, associations, previous experience and upbringing.
Understand
the person's view on parenting. Some see it as
mother's role only. The view may be based on upbringing, associations, exposure
to information.
Understand
their view on home chores and domestic helps. This may be based
on upbringing, association, exposure to information as well as nature of
occupation.
Understand
your spouse's view on Faith or spiritual matters. This
is also important and may be based on upbringing, association, local church
being attended, as well as exposure to information.
I
hope you find this useful. Next edition will consider reasons to understand
your spouse in these areas.
Talks
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